There’s nothing quite like romance in the movies. The gestures are grand, the kisses are long, and the declarations are so sweeping you can quote them word for word. We all know that real love and dating isn’t quite as dramatic as cinema would make it seem, but as it turns out, sometimes that’s a good thing.

While we all know of some stellar scenes between passionate movie pairings — Jack and Rose in Titanic, Han Solo and Princess Leia in Star Wars, or Wesley and Buttercup in The Princess Bride, for instance — there are also other “romantic” moments that aren’t really that swoon-worthy at all. After a closer look, some of these scenes can actually be considered problematic — maybe even slightly toxic.

It’s nice to get attention from a new lover, but when someone admits they love watching you sleep at night? No thanks. And while sometimes opposites do attract, it’s not always a good idea to get together with someone who’s been mean to you or ignoring your boundaries leading up to that point. If love truly is blind, that means you shouldn’t have to drastically change your appearance to get someone to go out with you (looking at you, Grease).

The thing is, when combined with a charming soundtrack, dreamy lighting, and enthusiastic performances, these scenes actually seem quite lovey-dovey. But upon further inspection, something doesn’t feel right. Let’s take a look at 10 famous scenes from romance movies that are quite messed up, when you think about it.

10 Romantic Movie Scenes That Are Actually Messed Up

These supposedly swoon-worthy scenes don't really hold up over time.

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